Want a natural approach to pre-menopause?
Our pre-menopausal journey is no mean feat for many of us. It means you come face to face with frequent and often uncomfortable symptoms both emotional and physical.
These symptoms arise for a very good reason.
It means it's time to do some inner house-keeping!
You can blame your hormones but they are messengers only.
Their changing levels reveal to us what’s at our core - the physical gunk and the emotional stuff.
So what needs to be churned out and discarded?
Unhelpful thoughts from limiting beliefs like I’m a failure or I’m not good enough?
Being a martyr - doing too much for others?
Always putting others needs ahead of your own?
What about your physical toxic load which builds
in response to those thoughts (stress causes physical dehydration)
what’s been passed down to us through our ancestry
and the way we’ve lived so far- some of our dietary and lifestyle choices?
Taking time for immaculate self-care and rest is essential. What you do for you sends ripples out into the universe and benefits all
I’m on this journey with you and it’s not for the faint hearted. I hear and feel every uncomfortable symptom as I go through it too.
I’ve developed tools over the years to ensure I mine every little bit of ‘stuff’ that’s coming up. I use natural nutrition and naturopathic and lifestyle techniques to support myself. And I look forward to the future every so often to keep me on track. I want a masterful healthy life in my 60s and onwards. I don’t want to bring any of my sh*t (what doesn't serve me from my past) into my next and final phase of my life.
It doesn’t mean there won’t be obstacles in the next life phase, there most definitely will be but I’d like to face them without the burden of not believing in myself, of believing I’m the only one at fault all the time, that I’m not good enough etc.. I’d like to leave all that behind.
What about you? What do you want to leave behind to live your one magnificent life?
Pre-menopause does this. It holds no prisoners. It forces you to lie down (sometimes literally) and take it- take what’s being shown to you and harness it or release it for the greater good.
Now right now if you’re having a hard day, if you're experiencing a rollercoaster of emotions, you might like to take a moment and read the poem below. It's one of my favourite!
And one more thing
When the going gets tough don't turn on yourself. In other words when you feel negative emotion (always triggered by a past event) don't make yourself feel even worse by lambasting yourself with thoughts such as, "I'm such an idiot, I should have realised he'd let me down" or "this always happens to me, I'm clearly not good enough."
Maybe you've been abandoned, betrayed or rejected in the past and a current situation is reminding you of this. That's ok. Just don't take it out on yourself and now abandon, betray or reject your inner child too. Don't do it! You'll feel even worse. If life is dealing you a curve-ball, don't turn on yourself.
Always grab your inner child and hold her fiercely, protect her, love her, support her and you will be able to navigate whatever storm it is raging inside of you.
But do take the time when the storm hits to process what is happening, the emotions you're experiencing or you'll have to revisit it again later on.
And when you do this, the storm will pass and you will begin again, lighter, brighter, braver and more focused than before in living an awake and conscious life.
Don’t know where to start? Inbox me.
Xxx
p.s I have a facebook group to support women going though the menopause. Do join us here.
Sophie xox
The Invitation
“It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.
It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.
It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon.
I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life’s betrayals or have become shrivelled and closed from fear of further pain.
I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it, or fade it, or fix it.
I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own; if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, be realistic, remember the limitations of being human.
It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true
I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself. If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see Beauty even when it is not pretty every day. And if you can source your own life from its presence.
I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand at the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, ‘Yes.’
It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone and do what needs to be done to feed the children.
It doesn’t interest me who you know or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand in the centre of the fire with me and not shrink back.
It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.
I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.”
by Oriah Mountain Dreamer